friendship

My friend Joslyn sent me this fascinating article on friendship, which talks about how and why it’s hard to make new friends after the age of 30. Months after I’ve read the piece, I keep thinking about it. Basically, it talks about as you get older, the number of friends you have grows smaller — just as when you get older, you get more serious, more focused in every compartment of your life. This narrowing approach includes your friendships. When you’re a twenty-something blob, you click with more people, but as you get more set in your ways, you shed people. But your feelings and bonds with those who are left are quite loyal and intense. When I think about who has shed me and whom I have shed, these ideas make so much sense, and the article helped me not take take those rejections personally, because really, there is so little time and you can’t take everyone with you.